Why do people tease someone who has a really bad self-esteem?
there’s this girl in my high school, she has no friends she’s literally always alone and really introverted and always looking down like she has really bad self-confidence. and there are these two girls who have made her their target. no one else usually ever bothers her because they feel bad for her. why do some people have to be mean to people who literally have no means to defend themselves?
To be able to manipulate how someone feels makes one feel they have a sense of power.
It’s much like wife-beaters… the woman leaves, finally, and he falls apart because his identity was wrapped up in controlling her, and with her gone, he has no sense of himself.
Picking on people because they can, and nobody is going to stop them, makes them feel strong.
Yes, it’s sad, I know.
I was picked on as a child, for my whole entire childhood (my dad died right after we bought the house – he had NO life insurance but my mom raised 4 kids without ever going on welfare — my sister wore 2nd hand clothes, and I wore her hand-me-downs 7 years later, after they were wayyy out of date).
When I became a tween, a girl moved to our school that was about as bad off as I was… and I picked on her. It’s all I knew. And it made me feel better about myself when I picked on her (I saw her on the bus a few years ago, and apologized to her after explaining why I did what I did. She was really good about accepting my most sincere apology).
That whole time of my childhood, I had 1 friend. She didn’t stand up for me much infront of people (sometimes, but rarely… or if she knew some were planning to beat me up, she would distract them so I could sneak out another door), and I knew even then why she couldn’t publically be my friend (she’d be alienated & friendless), but she would save me some cake from her birthday party and would invite me over the next day, and stuff like that. That was 30 years ago, and just about every chance I get now, I tell her just how much her friendship meant to me back then.
It’s nice to know you have this empathy and compassion for her… please befriend this girl. She needs you. Really and truly, I know first hand that she NEEDS a friend. Should you be there for her, I’m certain you’ll be rewarded in Heaven when your life is through (for Jesus said, when you fed the hungry, you were feeding me, and when you sheltered the homeless, you were shelterng me). Heck, this girl may even name her children after you! Please at least offer her a piece of gum, a kind word, or even a simple smile.
God Bless you.